The Will to Change by bell hooks Remaking Manhood by Mark Greene Angry White Men by Michael S. Kimmel The Macho Paradox by Jackson Katz Getting Off. by Jackson Katz. “Men need to read this book. Not only because it will make the world safer for women, but because it will free men to be their true selves. “. Jackson Katz asks a very important question that gets at the root of why sexual He is the author of The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt.
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Return to Book Page. Praise for The Hhe Paradox “An honest, intellectually rigorous and insightful work that challenges readers to truly engage in a political discourse that can change lives, communities and nations. With integrity and courage, he has taken his message–that the epidemic of violence kahz Praise for The Macho Paradox “An honest, intellectually rigorous and kkatz work that challenges readers to truly engage in a political discourse that can change lives, communities and nations.
With integrity and courage, he has taken his message–that the epidemic of violence against women is a men’s issue–into athletic terms, the military and frat houses across the country. His book explains carefully and convincingly why–and how–men can become part of the solution, and work with women to build a world in which everyone is safer. After reading this book you can see how important it is to be a stand-up guy and not a standy-by guy, no matter what race or culture you come from.
Katz knows how to cut to the core of the issues, demonstrating undeniably that stopping the degradation of women should be every man’s priority. Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men Paperbackpages.
To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. To ask other jackeon questions about The Macho Paradoxplease sign up. Lists with This Book. Mar 31, Khashayar Mohammadi rated it it was amazing Shelves: Certain chapters hit crucial notes about the current reality of the jackspn masculine identity that needs to be fixed in EVERY man. The kackson of the book sums it all up; how it takes a so-called “Macho” man which in the original Spanish form embodies characteristics such as courage, sincerity, pride and responsibility to stand up against fellow “Brothers”, fellow “Men” who are actively sexist and misogynistic.
Because as we all know, not all men are rapists and abusive, but t Fantastic Book. Because as we all know, not all men are rapists and rhe, but the ferocity of the few is ONLY possible through the complacency of the many. I suggest this book to Adolescent men who might not have figured out the larger chunk of what is said inside.
Kudos to Jackson Katz for what he does. Kudos to all men who have realized the impotence of feminism without male Allies. If you’re not jakcson, you’re not a “Good” guy, you’re not a “Nice” guy. You’re the very starting point of humanity. Now take a step further. View all 3 comments. Apr 16, Jerzy rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: Guys, please, read this book.
It will give you lots to think about regarding some problems with our society’s ideals about what it means to be a “real man. In particular, I was impressed with the tone of this book.
It’s easy to divide the world into “bad guys” who hurt women and “good guys” who don’t, then pat yourself on the back for being on the good side. But Katz asks us to go further and speak up when our guy friends engage in sexist behavior. Unfortunately there’s a perception that it’s normal and natural for “real men” to disrespect women; and if you challenge such behavior you’re at risk of losing your status as “one of the guys.
When Miller came out with Miller Lite, jacison were many guys who did want a less filling beer, but they wouldn’t order one because it would be seen as a “girly” drink. So Miller ran a successful jaclson campaign with well-known, respected, and very manly football players drinking Miller Lite in a bar with their friends, to show that it’s okay for real men to drink light beer. In the same way, Katz suggests, if you’re a popular, respected, or otherwise powerful guy, you could do a lot of good by being a good role model who actually steps in to prevent, discourage, or outright stop violent or sexist behavior.
If we had a lot of role models showing us that it is good and proper for real men to respect women, then much violence could be prevented: There are some good suggestions for how to react in such circumstances in your own life. Those are some of the major points, but there’s LOTS more to this book.
It’s full of sobering facts about men’s violence, but also contains many inspiring success stories and useful prevention ideas. Mar 19, Worthless Bum rated it really liked it Shelves: Jackson Katz gives us a work tackling the pernicious consequences of male gender socialization, the most serious of which is, clearly, male violence.
And if you dispute this, I’ll validate my manhood by taking a macho hyper-masculine posture and start fucking hitting people. Being the first feminist book I’ve ever read, I can’t really say how well it stacks up to other works covering the same topics.
Nevertheless, this book has the rare quality of having kat substantially perspective changing, cons Jackson Katz gives us a work tackling the pernicious consequences of male gender socialization, the most serious of which is, clearly, male violence.
Nevertheless, this book has the rare quality of having a substantially perspective changing, consciousness raising effect on me, something that can be said of fewer machk half a dozen books I’ve read.
I knew that violence against women was a serious problem, but learning about the frequency of violent acts was just shocking.
An estimated 78 women raped every hour, and a large percentage of women physically or sexually abused by their partners? Holy fuck is that egregious! Besides how common violence against women is, the other shocking thing is the myriad ways in which violent masculinity is socially reinforced.
From popular movies and music, jwckson, pornography, the military, male role models, etc. Patriarchal oppression is still very much a part of mainstream American culture, it seems.
The biggest problem I have with Katz’s mostly excellent book is his soft position on religion. For the sake of having a wide tent, Katz keeps from criticizing the clearly pernicious role that religion has had in perpetuating mysoginy. He wants to include some liberal religious folk who might be receptive to what he has to say, but in so doing he makes the mistake that Sam Harris has repeatedly pointed out of tacitly supporting religious fundamentalism and extremism.
That simply won’t do. View all 4 comments. Dec 03, Andrew Perry rated it it was amazing. I don’t think about it. Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. Carry a cell phone. Don’t go jogging at night. Lock all the windows when I go to sleep, even on hot summer nights.
Pardox careful not to drink too much. Don’t put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. Own a big dog. Carry Mace or pepper spray. Have an unlisted phone number. Have a man’s voice on my answering machine. Park in well-lit areas.
The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help
Teh use parking garages. Don’t get on elevators with only one man or with a group of men. Vary my route home from work. Watch what I wear. Don’t use highway rest areas. Use a home alarm system. Don’t wear headphones when jogging. Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime.
Don’t take a first-floor apartment. Go out in groups. Meet men on first dates in public places. Make sure to have a car or cab fare. Don’t make eye contact with men on the street. Make assertive eye contact with men on the street. Katz discredits the notion that a person is likely to get violent when they have “blown a fuse”. He concedes that it sounds reasonable to accept that abusers simply “lose control”, but upon careful scrutiny, they “will admit that even in their heightened state of anger, they mcho able to make a series of rational decisions.
As he introduces some of the problems surrounding our use of language regarding men’s violence against women, Katz takes great care to dismiss the argument that abusers behaviour is simply a result of individual pathology, rather than underlying power structures and tthe norms.
Katz writes disparagingly against referring to men’s violence against women as a “women’s issue”, because it “contribute[s] to a broad shifting of responsibility from the male perpetrators of violence to its female victims.
A striking paragraph reminding of my own complacency in this process was where Katz makes the case that by referring to the allege rape victim as “Kobe’s accuser”, the media subtly undermined the credibility of the victim by turning people’s attention to the actions of the young woman rather than the merits of the prosecutor’s case. He observes that Bryant’s lawyers successfully shifted the framing of the trial so that Bryant became the “victim” of her accusations.
The fixation on her sexual practices overshadowed Bryant’s alleged pattern of sexually aggressive conduct toward women. In a recent conversation with a good friend of mine, I referred to an alleged victim as “the accuser”, and paradlx reflection, I think I may have done so with sympathy to the alleged predator, because I had otherwise respected him.
The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help by Jackson Katz
I know understand the grievous impact of doing so, and I have this book to thank for making me aware of just how much language impacts our perceptions of events.
I want to preface my thoughts by acknowledging that, overall, it is a very good chapter, and I could relate to many of the experiences that are shared in my own journey of feminism becoming more central to my life. That being said, I have some reservations with the means by which Katz advocates getting more men involved with domestic and sexual violence programs although he was clear that he is speaking from experience.